Depression is not a choice, it is a disease, and all psychiatrists out there will agree to that. According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, around 40 million adults seek treatment for depression. In the US population of adults aged 18 or older, about 7% suffer from some form of depression.
1. Know the signs– They tend to appear much stronger than you know them.
‘Whose Line Is It Anyway’ star Wayne Brady famously said “You know what? If you are not happy, you have to do something about it”. The popular US health information web Image Source Healthline shows a staggering 80% of depressed persons do not seek treatment earlier even though they have the clinical signs.
2. The saddest feeling is loneliness– Do not deprive them of your presence.
The toughest for anyone to hear is that they are ‘at fault’. Nurture that intuitiveness and honesty. Talk to them gently regarding the change that you have noticed, but in an environment and with the people they feel safe with.
3. Lean on them when you need to.
Treating them as normally possible is effective, and this includes when you reach out to them when you need help. Asking for their help or suggestions or simply involving them in the daily process make them feel wanted and part of the unit.
4. Create opportunities for laughter.
The opposite of sadness is happiness, and that holds good for people suffering from depression. In their struggle against depression, create situations of fun that will help feel positive.
5. Treat them with respect– They deserve that!
The basic need for a person is to be respected, and your partner is no exception. Dating someone with anxiety and depression is not easy, and the state of their mind may not be permanent, and there is no reason that they should not be treated just like everyone else.
6. Wanting to be alone is not a choice.
Depression, unlike other mental illness, is known to the person suffering from it. Stay away from conversations and people who might trigger insecurities and spread negativity.
7. Do not push them in the name of encouragement.
Depressed persons are more tired and exhausted than an individual who does not suffer from the illness. They will move away further if you push hard.
8. It is hard but, do not take their words personally.
It is difficult for a person suffering from depression to put their thoughts into words the way the society demands it. Encourage them to exercise and follow healthy lifestyles.
9. Supportive family and friends are very essential.
There may be many tense situations that can test your patience. This is the time to call for help from a family member or a friend who you could talk to dilute the tension or relieve your stress to find a solution.
10. Do not lose hope, can depressed person fall in love, yes absolutely!
Look for signs where they show tremendous love for you. Small incidents of affection prove that you are doing something right.
Despite all of the high statistics on anxiety and depression, many suffer in silence without seeking care. Help your loved one fight. “Remember sadness is always temporary. This too shall pass.” Chuck T. Falcon.